Fill Your Jars - Enrich Your Life
September 14, 2018“Fill Your Jars - Enrich Your Life”
TTN Newsletter – August 14, 2018
by Kathleen Vestal Logan, MS, MA
“Answer yourself these questions every day,” is what Leigh’s NA (Narcotic Anonymous) sponsor told her to do. She shared that with us in the class I was leading for women recovering from drug and alcohol abuse and their mentors. We asked, of course, “What are the questions?” She told us, then wrote them down so we could use them, too. They are:
- One thing I did today that made me proud of myself
- One thing I did today for someone else
- One beautiful thing I saw
- One thing that is bothering me
I put the four jars and little slips of paper on the tables just before class starts so the women can reflect on their week. Keep in mind that the recovering women's children are mostly in foster care while they work on their program.
Here are some samples of what has gone in the jars:
One thing I did this week that made me proud of myself:
- Getting up and taking a long walk with my kids and taking them to the park/getting exercise
- Helping encourage women at Pathways
- Getting my kids back and passing a drug test!
- Realizing and getting on a path of growth
- Staying sober 58 days!
- Made a very important decision about my future
- I actually cooked
- Visited a friend in hospital
- Gave gas money without being asked
- Picked up a shift so someone could have day off
- Talked and talked with a friend who lost a year of sober time
- Just listened
- My children
- Growing ducklings
- Rainbow in the storm
- The night sky, stars and planets
- Butterfly flight and lighting on a flower
- My daughter’s smile
- Missing my kids
- I'm worried and I shouldn't be because it's a sin
- What am I supposed to be doing in life?
- Stressed about what my next career will be
- Not making enough money
These open discussions have several benefits to everyone. It quickly becomes clear that we all have issues that bother us; our families matter more than anything; talking about concerns with a trusted, supportive group is very helpful; sharing builds trust, stronger relationships, and community; and everyone benefits from our shared wisdom.
Like Leigh and all of the other women, you, too, can answer these questions. Label four jars (or envelopes) for yourself, reflecting on them every night and writing down your thoughts. For your “bothering me” jar, you might decide who in your circle of family and friends could help you think through your issue. Reach out to them.
You, too, can fill your jars – and enrich your life.